A growing number of young adults are choosing to cut ties with their parents, a phenomenon that was once considered taboo. Cara, a 25-year-old journalist from Bradford, is one such individual who hasn’t spoken to her father for three and a half years.
Statistics and Research
Recent studies indicate that family estrangement is more common than previously thought. Research suggests that approximately one in five UK families and 6% of adult children in the US experience parental separation.
High-Profile Cases Bring Awareness
Celebrities like Matthew McConaughey and Davina McCall have publicly discussed their experiences with estrangement, helping to bring the issue into the spotlight. Jennette McCurdy’s best-selling memoir I’m Glad My Mom Died further highlighted this topic.
Reasons Behind Estrangement
The causes vary widely, ranging from emotional abuse to differing values and beliefs. Dr. Becca Bland, an expert on family estrangement, identifies several common themes:
- Abuse (emotional, physical, or sexual)
- Parental divorce and remarriage
- Polarized morals and beliefs
Stigma and Challenges
Despite its prevalence, estrangement still carries significant societal stigma. Adult children often face judgment and pressure to maintain relationships, even in toxic situations.
Support and Resources
Organisations like Together Estranged provide support for those experiencing family separation. Therapy and support groups can help individuals process their experiences and find healing.
Positive Outcomes
Many individuals report improved mental health and well-being after ending toxic relationships with parents. As Sam Morris, a content creator who cut ties with his mother, stated:
«I’m genuinely so at peace. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life.»
Call for Empathy
Experts emphasise the need for greater societal understanding and support for those experiencing estrangement. As Angel Cassin, CEO of Together Estranged, notes: «We need to be a kinder society and understand that people don’t make these decisions because they’ve fallen out over something minor.»
